A Little Adventure — The Wandry Way

Happy Sunday all!

We hope you are all cuddled up in your favorite blanket about to watch some Netflix!
Or perhaps ready to stuff your face in at family dinner!

We are getting ready to do both of these things, but first we wanted to share some thoughts.

Thoughts about having fun with your spouse (partner, companion, love), loving yourself, and being truly happy (specifically in the moment).

Yesterday, Ty claimed it to be Jen's Day!
We do this quite often where we gift each other a whole day where that person can choose to do whatever he/she enjoys. It's one of our favorite things to do, and if done correctly, can really relieve stress and bring joy.

The rules for this day?
Unapologetically make decisions that will make you happy.
And your spouse will love and support whatever that will be!

It's so easy to be the supporting spouse (at least in mine and Ty's relationship), but it is quite hard to be the one to choose and to be a little selfish at times.
But we are learning how important it is to self care and to take time for oneself.

So yesterday, after a week of stresses and not seeing each other as much as we hoped, I was very excited to spend some quality time with myself and my spouse. And I did not feel any guilt!
I allowed myself to be truly happy, live in the moment, and dig deep into what I needed.

So here are some of the activities I chose:

- Take a hot shower and take some time to meditate and get ready: starting of your day like this is EVERYTHING!

- Find a new brunch spot that serves Avocado Toast: food will always lead my day and this can be really fun! Whenever you're in a food rut, think of your favorite snack or entree and go searching for the best version of it! Whether you go alone, with friends, or with a spouse, it will add new excitement to your day.

- Around this time I asked Ty if we could be off of our phones. We needed our phones in the morning because we were making some calls and finding some information we needed, but as soon as this was over, I told Ty I would love if we both put our phones away... and we did and it was marvelous :)

- I really REALLY wanted to go antiquing/thrifting but I also wanted to stay within our budget so I asked Ty if we could spend a maximum of $20. This gave us the opportunity to look at more things and find more deals, but it also allowed for more communication as we had to talk about what things to leave behind and what things to purchase. I love these types of communications because I get to learn a little more about Ty and his thought process. Ladies, sometimes our amazing husbands are thinking the sweetest things about us but don't know how to express it. I have come to learn that if I listen, Tyler will shower me in all his love in his own way. Examples? He leaned over and started to whisper in my ear. "You look so amazing ughjkafl;dahuf...", and proceeded to choke and cough. We started laughing and I was so overcome with love at the small gesture. He also described why he wanted to purchase some items by saying, "I can totally see you using this" or "I know you love film cameras". I can keep going, but I'll spare you the sap haha! Just remember that if we listen with our hearts, we will hear more.

- I then realized I was getting kinda sleepy from breakfast and I was feeling a little lazy so we decided to go watch a movie. Ty and I love movies so we don't mind that we don't get to talk during them. We love the opportunity of holding hands and enjoying some time being next to each other at the theater.

- After our movie we went to get out doggie and went up to Hobble Creek to walk around, take pictures, and enjoy the outdoors. While our allergies only allowed us to enjoy everything for so long, it was great to be outside and to enjoy time speaking and being silent.

- We ended our day rock climbing and enjoying some Chipotle! Again, spending time getting to know each other, asking questions, and being present. Climbing allows us to complement each other and help each other. I am not very good at accepting help, so this has been an amazingly great challenge for me. Ty loves offering me help and I know it is how he shows me love so I have learned to love his advice and little hints.

- When we got home, I spent some time journaling while Ty completed some of his tasks. We allowed each other to accomplish those goals we had set.

Ty and I love spending time together and during the week we do not get to see each other as much as we would. I know what you are thinking, it is way too much time together! Or perhaps the reason we love to be with each other is that our love is still new and exciting.
While Ty and I can still be considered newlyweds, we loved each other as friends even before we loved each other romantically. We have so much in common and can joke around for hours on end.
While we both enjoy spending time alone and have different jobs and obligations, we will always choose to be together whenever we can.
Ty truly is my best friend and we love spending time together!

While it can seem difficult to be happy all of the time, we know that true happiness can be found as we live in the present and embrace every moment that comes along.
We also know that everyone's relationship is different so we encourage you all to take time to be with those you love in a way that seems most powerful.